Significant negative emotional experiences cause us to focus on the wrong things.
These experiences cause us to say to ourselves, in effect, “There’s danger out there, and I have to avoid it.”
Then, whenever something reminds us–consciously or unconsciously–of a past traumatic experience, we attached the original negative emotions to it and…
…re-experience the negative emotions we originally felt, even if there’s no actual danger in that present moment.
Quite naturally, we feel that we need to focus on that danger in order to avoid it. Since focusing on anything gives your mind an instruction to create or attract more of it……when you do this you ironically end up getting the very thing they’re trying to avoid.
Be aware of where your focus is!