3 Anger Myths busted
Below you will find 3 frequently held opinions regarding anger, what they really mean and what to do about it.
Myth #1: Anger is a healthy, necessary emotion I have like any other emotion.
That depends on the “degree” of your anger. Would you agree that any time when anger “overcomes” or “triggers” you and you start destroying objects, acting in rage, threatening or hurting other people – that this may not be that healthy?
Therefore, while anger (which has a frequency higher than lethargy or apathy) is “better” than these “deathlike” states, it is not a desirable state in itself. It may motivate you to take action, to produce the energy necessary to get out of a miserable situation until it becomes destructive.
As previously mentioned, your anger problem will most likely get worse the older you get if you don’t do anything about it.
Myth #2: Venting Your Anger Is Healthy.
It was a popular belief over many years that the aggressive expression of anger, such as screaming or throwing items, was healthy and therapeutic.
Research studies have found, however, that people who vent their anger aggressively simply get better at being angry.
In other words, venting anger in an aggressive manner reinforces aggressive behaviour. It becomes more of a habit and automatic behaviour, harder and harder to control.
Myth #3: Your Anger Problem will resolve itself over time.
Like any other emotion anger has been programmed into you most likely before you were even born, while still in the womb of your mother.
Your mother got angry at something or someone during her pregnancy – that was the first anger event for you. The first anger event, called the “Gestalt”, was formed, triggered by this specific outside event. Anger has a specific frequency like all other emotions.
Since then, any other situation which triggered the frequency of anger in you was added to this first event. Over time, this specific chain of anger events in you gets longer and longer with each anger situation you are encountering.
That’s the reason your anger problem will most likely get worse the older you get if you don’t do anything about it (by yourself or with professional help).